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11-02-2005, 10:35 PM
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Suicide is NOT an Option
On December 12th, 1992, my brother committed suicide. The consequences were devestating to everyone involved. Maybe this story will help someone who is contemplating suicide to decide against it.
Suicide is not the solution that some may think it is. Problems and unresolved issues will haunt family and friends for many decades. My nephew, who was just a baby at the time, would always ask about his uncle. He eventually learned to point up at the sky and say, "Uncle Scott". But the reality is that he missed out on having the benefit and support of his uncle as he grew up. And of course, there are countless interactions with family members that will be missed over the decades. Suicide is permanent. And the effects that it has on loved ones also lasts over a life time. My brother was only 22 years old at the time he chose to commit suicide. I was only 24. I remember going to the viewing and seeing his lifeless body. They couldn't quite erase all of the signs of his violent death. And that image will stick with the living for the rest of their lives. In the end, the temporary pain someone escapes by committing suicide might be overshadowed by the pain and sadness of family and friends. That pain may continue through the decades whenever they think about it. The missed opportunities for interaction also impedes the growth of everyone else. Countless interactions that would have occurred are all lost now. Who knows how destiny was changed by such an event. The family that he may have had will not exist now. The triumphs and set backs of a life will never be realized. The fulfillment of a lifetime was cut short by a decision that may have been made rashly at a moment of personal confusion or pain. We never know who it is in our destiny to meet and interact with over a lifetime. All of those 'plays' of life will never be able to exist because one of the characters on the stage will not be there to fulfill his role. So, the total sum of the tragedy is really unknown but it seems likely that over what would have amounted to decades of time, that sum must be quite high. I guess we won't get the chance to find out. Though I am revealing this personal family tragedy to the m***es through this article, if it saves a single life, it will be worth it. Drop me a line if you ever want to talk, I would be happy to hear from you. Dave Snape writes for To Be Informed: http://tobeinformed.com You may republish this article so long as this paragraph accompanies it. Here are some additonal Suicide Prevention Resources. E-Books: Suicide Depression Anxiety Individual sites: http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/ http://www.suicide.org/suicide-hotlines.html http://suicide.com/suicidecrisiscenter/index.html http://www.save.org/ http://www.samaritans.org/?gclid=CPS...FRmA1QodHBVkOA Last edited by David : 11-09-2008 at 08:44 AM. Reason: update 
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11-19-2005, 07:35 PM
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I'm sorry for your loss David. Though I haven't lost a family member I know my younger brother was close to it at one time, but I didn't know til yrs later. He is one of the sweetest most generous guys there is. He now has a wife and two beautiful girls, and very much happy with life. I don't know what I would have done without him all these yrs if he had suceeded in killing himself. There is hope for those that feel there is none. Don't give up. Your family and friends will never get over it. Open your eyes, your heart and your mind and you will find the answers you are looking for.
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11-19-2005, 11:44 PM
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You bring up an interesting note, it usually is the sweet and sensitive ones that contemplate, isn't it? They have been deeply wounded despite their generosity. I believe this may touch on what my brother was going through. Though I can't be sure since he never talked about it. I know that he faced betrayals from some of his closest friends. But other than that, I can't be sure if it influenced his choice or not, logic seems to suggest that it had some type of impact. It happened 13 years ago as of December 12th. He was a good kid. His friend named his first child after him. He won't be forgotten by those who knew him.
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11-20-2005, 06:03 AM
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David, It's also scary because neither your brother nor my brother talked to anyone beforehand. We don't know the pain others are going through or the extent of it. I think all we can do is make sure everyone we care about knows how much we love them and be open to listening to them (which our family did little of then) and sharing your own troubles. It shows others there is options and resources.
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11-20-2005, 06:09 AM
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People have a way of trying to hide that there is something wrong. Maybe if we talk about our own problems a little bit, they will feel more comfortable sharing their own. Great point.
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11-11-2008, 06:20 AM
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I have been lurking about debating on the words I should use. You both like so many have lost with questions that will never be completely answered. They never are when someone opts to end their life. The loss not only to the immediate family, but the loss to a society of the contributions that may have been made are forever lost.
There are too many losses and the survivors are typically ashamed and fear the judgment of others if they were to offer their story. There are many places and people that would help in an instant if only they were given an opportunity. I hope if someone is reading this and they themselves feel they have no other way to escape the pain, they call someone. Get help, talk, find a solution. Even if it is just a friend to sit with. There are always other choices as long as you have the courage to find them. You are never alone, you just might not see the ones that care. KB
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